The “royal” wedding of Kim Kardashian had some really awesome stuff that is kind of unique! Black and white attire is one that is a show stopper, IMO.

But they took it to the next level with a 6′ dummy cake (hmmm, was that a cost saver? Time Saver? Or they just couldn’t fathom digging in to something so gorgeous!) Either way, that cake towered over the 5’2″ “starlet” (I hate to call her a starlet- I mean what has she ever really done to have that level of fame? _

Now wouldn’t we all love to go tasting at Hanson Cakes!?!?!? (my reaction would be the same!!!)

So here is her cake!

I must say that I am not impressed (maybe I would need to see it up close and for SURE taste it- well the real cake and not the dummy)

So let’s take some inspiration from her and see what else is out there on the web!

Stunning and elegant! So while you may gain inspiration from the celebrity weddings, the options to make it your style and grand, are endless.

Top (left): Cake by Flour Confections, Pickering, Ontario

Top (right): Cake by Ron Ben-Israel Cakes, New York City

Bottom (left): Cake by Miso Bakes, Los Angeles; jewelry by Style by Yoon

Bottom (right): Cake by Sweet and Saucy Shop, Long Beach, CA

I have had so many questions lately about booking wedding vendors and the confusion many of the websites suggestions. The bottom line is, you want to book them as soon as possible! Don’t think that every vendor you want will be available on your wedding day! You want to hire the best, but so does every other bride! I am booking weddings for 2013 already….. So the early bird does catch the worm (although I am in NO WAY referring to wedding industry folks as worms lol!!!!)

I went to the a few planning websites to see what timelines they are suggesting to brides.  Some of what I found made sense, but certain parts of each “wedding vendor checklist” didn’t seem to match reality.  I’ve broken them down their advice by vendor type, and added my two cents as well.

Wedding Planner:

The Knot:  9-11 months
Wedding Wire: 9 months
Brides.com: 11 months
My suggestion: 12+ months
Notes:  There is a general rule of thumb that you can follow when booking your wedding vendors, “If it requires a specific person, do it as soon as possible.”  Certain wedding vendors provide products (like cake, flowers, and invitations) and can provide those products to multiple couples in a single day.  Anything else needs to be secured as quickly as you can, because they are a scarce resource.  Wait too long and the one you want will probably be booked.  A wedding planner will have the greatest amount of utility to you and can help with the rest of your purchases, so start here.  If you’re not sure if you need (or want) a wedding planner or coordinator you may want to schedule a consultation (ours are FREE) and find out more.  I highly recommend hiring one — you’ll thank me later.

Wedding Venue (Reception Site):

The Knot: 9-11 months
Wedding Wire: 9 months
Brides.com: 11 months
My suggestion: 12+ months
Notes:  ASAP.  This is another scarce resource, and some reception venues will book up to two years in advance of a popular date.  Contrary to popular belief, simply saying a date is your wedding date does not mean that is your wedding date — unless it doesn’t matter to you where you have your wedding.  You do not have a wedding date until you put down a deposit on your ceremony and reception sites.  Without a firm wedding date, you can’t hire any of your wedding-related services.  Hence, this is the place to start.

Wedding Caterer:

The Knot: 9-11 months
Wedding Wire: 9 months
Brides.com: 6 months
My suggestion: 9-12 months
Notes:  Catering may be included at your reception venue, so you may be able to skip this one, but if it isn’t , you will want to book a cater once you book the venue.  Every caterer has a limited number of events they can do on any given date, and booking early ensures that you will be able to choose the one you want.  I would also advise you not to wait for a tasting if it’s more than a month into the future — you should be able to get a clear picture of a caterer’s quality and their style of food from their website and reviews.  This is another area where a wedding planner can help a lot.  They have probably worked with every good caterer in your area and know who is good, who is not, and who will fit your budget.

Wedding Photographer:

The Knot: 6-8 months
Wedding Wire: 6 months
Brides.com: 6 months
My suggestion: 10-12 months
Notes:  NO NO NO NO!!!!!!! I was actually surprised by the “expert” timelines on this one.  Six months?  Really?  Most couples think the photographer is an important part of their wedding, and I can tell you that most of the top-tier wedding photographers are going to be long gone at 6 months to go.  In my opinion, you should include the wedding photographer in the group of vendors you hire immediately after setting your wedding date.  The top talent will book first, so hiring a wedding photographer close to a year before your wedding is a good idea.

 Wedding Disc Jockey:

The Knot: 9-11 months
Wedding Wire: 9 months
Brides.com: 6 months
My suggestion: 10-12 months
Notes:  This was one of the services that the timelines didn’t seem to agree on.  The same rule from above applies to your wedding DJ as well — you are hiring a specific person to be your disc jockey and the top talent in your area will be the first to get booked.   Waiting too long to book your wedding DJ will leave you with a limited number of available DJs to choose from.

Wedding Videographer:

The Knot: 6-8 months
Wedding Wire: 6 months
Brides.com: 6 months
My suggestion: It depends.
Notes:  If you’re going to hire a wedding videographer (and I SERIOUSLY think a video is a cherished gift years down the road), you need to decide how important the wedding video is to you.  If a fabulous, amazing wedding video is a high priority for you, then you need to treat the videographer the same as the photographer and book them as early as possible.  If it’s a low priority and you’re just going to hire the cheapest person you can find, it can probably wait until later.

Ceremony Officiant:

The Knot: 9-11 months
Wedding Wire: 6 months
Brides.com: 11 months
My suggestion: 9-12 months
Notes:  I personally think that finding the right ceremony officiant is crucial, assuming that your ceremony site doesn’t come with a pastor/priest/rabbi included.  A really good officiant can make your ceremony magical and since you’re hiring a specific person, the same rule applies and I recommend booking them early in the process.  This is yet another area where a wedding planner (as well as your photographer, videographer, and disc jockey) can really help – we’ve all seen great (and not-so-great) ceremonies and can offer suggestions based on what type of ceremony you want.

Wedding Florist:

The Knot: 6-8 months
Wedding Wire: 6 months
Brides.com: 6 months
My suggestion: 6-9 months
Notes:  Now we’re getting into the wedding vendors who can do multiple weddings in one day.  Most florists can handle a few weddings at a time depending on the size, so booking one at a year before your wedding isn’t as crucial.  That being said, I think that it also depends on how important the flowers are to you.  If you have your heart set on a certain florist or a certain style, then I say pull the trigger and put down a deposit.  The really good florists in our area still sell out during the busy season, so you can’t wait too long.

Wedding Cake:

The Knot: 6-8 months
Wedding Wire: 6 months
Brides.com: 6 months
My suggestion: 6-9 months
Notes:  Most wedding cake bakeries can do multiple wedding cakes on any give date, so you’re safe waiting for a little while.  I highly recommend visiting multiple cake shops and sampling their cakes.  Note that some cakeries may charge for a tasting (that may or may not be applied to booking with them!)  Plus, you’ll end up making a better decision if you shop around a little bit. Not everybody has the same palate so multiple tastings are a good idea!

Wedding Invitations:

The Knot: 6-8 months
Wedding Wire: 6 months
Brides.com: 5 months
My suggestion: 6 months
Notes:  Since you’re not going to be mailing your invitations a year before your wedding, you don’t need to buy them that early either.  However, I do recommend sending “save the date” cards to your guests as soon as you secure your reception site and wedding date.  Find a good stationer in your area that carries the styles and brands you like, and use them for both.  They will save you time, offer suggestions on confusing wording, send you a proof and take care of errors!

Wedding Transportation:

The Knot: 2-3 months
Wedding Wire: 2 months
Brides.com: 6 months
My suggestion: 5-6 months
Notes:  Seriously? TWO months lol?   If you are going to hire professional transportation (limos, shuttle buses, whatever), then you need to hire someone good and you need to do it more than 2 months before your wedding.  Any wedding planner will tell you that the wedding vendors they have the most trouble with are limo drivers.  The good ones will provide you with a clean, great looking ride and get you to the church on time.  The bad ones will show up late (or not show up), get lost, and make you late for the wedding you’ve paid so much to plan.  My advice is to do this about 6 months before your wedding, and pay a little extra to hire the best company you can find.  Ask your wedding planner for advice on who to hire, chances are she’s had a bad experience with more than one of the limo companies in your area.

***Additional note:  If you are getting married from late April through the beginning of June, you really need to jump on your limo situation.  Most brides don’t think about it, but its prom season — most limo companies will completely sell out on Fridays and Saturdays.

As you can see, the “experts” don’t even agree on the wedding planning timeline.  The best advice I can give is: a) hire a wedding planner, b) book your reception site and set your date immediately, c) book anything that requires a specific person as soon as possible, and d) do your homework when you hire your vendors!

1. Find the front.

   Most bouquets have a “front.” If you find a brooch, bow, or other decoration on the stem, or if your bouquet has any cascading elements, this will be easy to determine. If your bouquet is the basic  hand-tied type, you’ll need to rotate it until you find the part that looks best. The “best” side will be the most full and symmetrical, like this:

   
   Keep this part facing out, particularly during the ceremony and for formal photographs. If you don’t, your bouquet may look like this:

It’s just not as nice.

2. Grasp (or cradle) it gracefully.

1. For a nosegay or cascading handheld bouquet (most bouquets)…

   Use one hand to gently grasp the bouquet at the base of the blossoms near the top of the stems. Never, ever with white knuckles like this:

   
   …and certainly not like this ridiculousness (I don’t care how long or short the stems are!):

   
   …and save these interlocked fingers for prayer and hand-holding:

   
   
   

For a single rose…

The best way to carry a single rose is probably to simply hold the stem in your fingertips a few inches from the blossom. Think that looks weird? You’re right. Don’t make your bridesmaids carry a single rose.

For a single calla lily…

The sleek nature of the calla lily lends itself to being cradled along the arm, the way Miss America would carry a bouquet.

3. Keep it low.

Not this low:

And, unless instructed by the photographer, your bouquet should never be held at your neck…

…or chest…

Instead, think of keeping your thumb near your belly button – your forearms will hit your pelvis, like this:

Remember that a bouquet is a very feminine accessory. Doing this is or letting your bouquet hit your knees is only okay if you’re trying to pose for a sassy photo:

Many women will choose to be escorted down the aisle. I’ll save the speech on how to properly take a gentleman’s arm for another post, but for now, let’s review how to handle a bouquet and an escort.

It’s not like this. This says you’re clueless about what to do with your new bride accessory:

It’s not like this, unless you’re partial to square dancing:

Instead, hold your bouquet with your forearm at your pelvis and take your escort’s arm like this:

REMEMBER: in most cases,you will be walking on the left side of your escort (they walk on the right- this makes you close to your escort’s heart!!) Hold the bouquet accordingly.

Wish you had the luxury of TWO dresses for your wedding? There are options and you don’t need to be royalty to have two distinct looks at your wedding.

What makes the Two in One gown so much fun is the great reveal as the bride and groom enter their reception for the first time. The traditional bride from the ceremony will be replaced with a sassy bride who is ready to hit the dance floor! Make the most of the change by also changing your accessories and possibly your hairstyle. Swap out the classic pearl bridal jewelry for a stack of Swarovski crystal bracelets. Slip into a fabulous pair of jeweled high heels with crystal embellishments to complement your Swarovski crystal bracelets and earrings. You may even wish to literally let your hair down; ask your stylist about creating an updo which is designed to be released after the ceremony.

All in all, the convertible wedding gown has a lot of potential. They are not yet widely available, but a few designers are starting to offer them in their collections (I first learned of them when I saw a David Tutera breakaway gown on “My Fair Wedding”). If you are looking for a bridal gown that offers two looks for the price of one, the convertible gown might be exactly what you desire.

Check out this dress from David’s Bridal

Simple elegance that you can TOTALLY dress up! Add some bling with a gorgeous belt! Add some color with a sash!

THEN, when it is time to party the night away, look what you can do……………

Add an elegant flower and a fun “fascinator” (you know, one of those fun headpieces that were EVERYWHERE during the royal wedding) and you have an outfit fit for a princess (and a party girl who can dance the night away!)  Now on to the shoes………..

As social media becomes even more integrated to our daily lives the rules of etiquette are a bit unclear on the parts that are acceptable. Weddings are the one place that can put the etiquette rules to question. This is a day you want to share with the world but we all know that a “status update” can be a complete distraction from the event (come on, you know you don’t pay attention to ANYTHING when typing your update or tweet!!!)

So how can you use Social Media and still maintain the decorum of proper etiquette?

1. Before the wedding

Many times your wedding party has never been introduced to each other. This can make for an awkward situation as the wedding festivities begin. Facebook “groups” can be a perfect platform for your party! Introducing wedding attendees online before the big day can help you avoid any day-of awkwardness. This will give people the chance to break the ice and virtually get to know a little about everyone else.

2. The Ceremony is off-limits

We’ve all seen the video where the couple updates their facebook relationship status on the alter. Sure it was funny the first time but……. The wedding ceremony should be off limits. This is a scared ceremony that should be respected (just as marriage is to be respected!) My advice, leave your phone in the dressing room (with the ringer off!!!!) I say to my couples, everybody you need today is here, so the phone wont be ringing!

3. Make it a tweet-fest reception

All tweeters know the power of a # – Hashtag. You can create a custom hashtag for your wedding day. Make it something fun and easy to remember. This will make all tweets from your day easy to find later on and helps to create a feeling of celebration for your guests.

Getting the word out to your guests can be FUN! Instead of putting disposable cameras around, make signs with the hashtag for your event and encourage your guests to send you their well wishes, touching moments and snap shots. These are moments that otherwise would have been missed.

Instead of a guestbook appoint a “Tweeter In Charge” and create a wishing station. You can post well wishes, photos and a whole host of things! All for the bride and groom to experience later. You can also choose to read a few wishes and tweets during your toasts. What a fun way to get your guests involved (once again, our OMG wedding tips TOTALLY apply here!!!)

4. Set Up a Social Media Station

The way of the guestbook is fading fast. We are always looking for the next “thing” in registering the thoughts of your guests! But how can you mix tradition with modern? How about a “Social Action Station.” A “social action station” is a place where those who want to connect or comment online can do so, without forcing the issue onto the uninterested.

Set up a station with a laptop, a webcam, projector and screen. Encourage guests to come by, and leave their mark however they want- a facebook post on the “event wall”, tweet their well wishes and watch others’ tweets scroll over the screen. Any form of social media can be used, as long as you have the expert to set it up!

This can also work for photos, as well as text-based communications. A live stream of photos from the event can be a fun way to engage people and encouraging sharing.

5. Live Stream for Those Who Can’t Make It

Thanks to the wonders of modern tech, nowadays you can share your special moments with people who can’t make it in person. Ustream is one such site that can help you share your ceremony with those well-wishing from afar.

“Live weddings give our users an opportunity to experience Ustream in a completely new way. It’s very exciting to see our broadcasters offer unfiltered access to the best moments of their lives. That’s one of the many reasons we’re here,” says Ustream’s Tony Riggins. “The use of Ustream to share (publicly or privately) your day live online for friends and family that cannot make it to your ceremony is especially useful for those having destination weddings. If Great Grandmother cannot make it, she can still virtually attend and share in your joy,” Howard says.

And don’t think this means you’re spilling private moments all over the web; there are ways to make this a private process, Stevens points out:

“If you have loved ones who are unable to attend the wedding, collaborate with your videographer on showing a live feed of the ceremony via Ustream or another online video streaming service. You can make these password protected if you’d like, so that you can share your joy only with people you know and not random Internet strangers.”

Brides all over have streamed some of their special day to far-flung elderly relatives, and even got them involved in the speeches:

6. Don’t Forget to Enjoy the Moment

You only get one wedding day — if things go as planned, anyway — so don’t waste any precious moments you could be interacting with real-life people. Rest assured anyone who is following your day online will certainly understand your priorities. Changing a Facebook status from engaged to married just after the vows is a growing trend, but don’t miss taking in those moments with the people actually there with you. Put down the phone and enjoy the company of those who came to celebrate with you

“When you’re one of the major participants, you need to unplug for the day and focus on the people who are actually there with you.

7. After The Big Day

Finding the best way to summarize your wedding day: Set them up in advance and you will have everything in place for your wedding day!

• Facebook Event
  
• Flickr- Have your guests upload their photos to a custom and private flickr page (set up in advance!)
  
• Blurb -With Blurb, you’ll find all the tools you need to make your own photo book
• Party On by Get Married- PartyOn! finds your guests’ photos, videos and posts from across the web and gathers them all into one simple, fun place.