wedding officiants

I have had so many questions lately about booking wedding vendors and the confusion many of the websites suggestions. The bottom line is, you want to book them as soon as possible! Don’t think that every vendor you want will be available on your wedding day! You want to hire the best, but so does every other bride! I am booking weddings for 2013 already….. So the early bird does catch the worm (although I am in NO WAY referring to wedding industry folks as worms lol!!!!)

I went to the a few planning websites to see what timelines they are suggesting to brides.  Some of what I found made sense, but certain parts of each “wedding vendor checklist” didn’t seem to match reality.  I’ve broken them down their advice by vendor type, and added my two cents as well.


Wedding Planner:


The Knot:  9-11 months
Wedding Wire: 9 months
Brides.com: 11 months
My suggestion: 12+ months

Notes:  There is a general rule of thumb that you can follow when booking your wedding vendors, “If it requires a specific person, do it as soon as possible.”  Certain wedding vendors provide products (like cake, flowers, and invitations) and can provide those products to multiple couples in a single day.  Anything else needs to be secured as quickly as you can, because they are a scarce resource.  Wait too long and the one you want will probably be booked.  A wedding planner will have the greatest amount of utility to you and can help with the rest of your purchases, so start here.  If you’re not sure if you need (or want) a wedding planner or coordinator you may want to schedule a consultation (ours are FREE) and find out more.  I highly recommend hiring one — you’ll thank me later.

Wedding Venue (Reception Site):


The Knot: 9-11 months
Wedding Wire: 9 months
Brides.com: 11 months
My suggestion: 12+ months

Notes:  ASAP.  This is another scarce resource, and some reception venues will book up to two years in advance of a popular date.  Contrary to popular belief, simply saying a date is your wedding date does not mean that is your wedding date — unless it doesn’t matter to you where you have your wedding.  You do not have a wedding date until you put down a deposit on your ceremony and reception sites.  Without a firm wedding date, you can’t hire any of your wedding-related services.  Hence, this is the place to start.

Wedding Caterer:


The Knot: 9-11 months
Wedding Wire: 9 months
Brides.com: 6 months
My suggestion: 9-12 months
Notes:
  Catering may be included at your reception venue, so you may be able to skip this one, but if it isn’t , you will want to book a cater once you book the venue.  Every caterer has a limited number of events they can do on any given date, and booking early ensures that you will be able to choose the one you want.  I would also advise you not to wait for a tasting if it’s more than a month into the future — you should be able to get a clear picture of a caterer’s quality and their style of food from their website and reviews.  This is another area where a wedding planner can help a lot.  They have probably worked with every good caterer in your area and know who is good, who is not, and who will fit your budget.

Wedding Photographer:


The Knot: 6-8 months
Wedding Wire: 6 months
Brides.com: 6 months
My suggestion: 10-12 months

Notes:  NO NO NO NO!!!!!!! I was actually surprised by the “expert” timelines on this one.  Six months?  Really?  Most couples think the photographer is an important part of their wedding, and I can tell you that most of the top-tier wedding photographers are going to be long gone at 6 months to go.  In my opinion, you should include the wedding photographer in the group of vendors you hire immediately after setting your wedding date.  The top talent will book first, so hiring a wedding photographer close to a year before your wedding is a good idea.

 Wedding Disc Jockey:


The Knot: 9-11 months
Wedding Wire: 9 months
Brides.com: 6 months
My suggestion: 10-12 months
Notes:
  This was one of the services that the timelines didn’t seem to agree on.  The same rule from above applies to your wedding DJ as well — you are hiring a specific person to be your disc jockey and the top talent in your area will be the first to get booked.   Waiting too long to book your wedding DJ will leave you with a limited number of available DJs to choose from.

Wedding Videographer:

The Knot: 6-8 months
Wedding Wire: 6 months
Brides.com: 6 months
My suggestion: It depends.
Notes:
  If you’re going to hire a wedding videographer (and I SERIOUSLY think a video is a cherished gift years down the road), you need to decide how important the wedding video is to you.  If a fabulous, amazing wedding video is a high priority for you, then you need to treat the videographer the same as the photographer and book them as early as possible.  If it’s a low priority and you’re just going to hire the cheapest person you can find, it can probably wait until later.

Ceremony Officiant:


The Knot: 9-11 months
Wedding Wire: 6 months
Brides.com: 11 months
My suggestion: 9-12 months

Notes:  I personally think that finding the right ceremony officiant is crucial, assuming that your ceremony site doesn’t come with a pastor/priest/rabbi included.  A really good officiant can make your ceremony magical and since you’re hiring a specific person, the same rule applies and I recommend booking them early in the process.  This is yet another area where a wedding planner (as well as your photographer, videographer, and disc jockey) can really help – we’ve all seen great (and not-so-great) ceremonies and can offer suggestions based on what type of ceremony you want.

Wedding Florist:

The Knot: 6-8 months
Wedding Wire: 6 months
Brides.com: 6 months
My suggestion: 6-9 months

Notes:  Now we’re getting into the wedding vendors who can do multiple weddings in one day.  Most florists can handle a few weddings at a time depending on the size, so booking one at a year before your wedding isn’t as crucial.  That being said, I think that it also depends on how important the flowers are to you.  If you have your heart set on a certain florist or a certain style, then I say pull the trigger and put down a deposit.  The really good florists in our area still sell out during the busy season, so you can’t wait too long.

Wedding Cake:


The Knot: 6-8 months
Wedding Wire: 6 months
Brides.com: 6 months
My suggestion: 6-9 months
Notes:
  Most wedding cake bakeries can do multiple wedding cakes on any give date, so you’re safe waiting for a little while.  I highly recommend visiting multiple cake shops and sampling their cakes.  Note that some cakeries may charge for a tasting (that may or may not be applied to booking with them!)  Plus, you’ll end up making a better decision if you shop around a little bit. Not everybody has the same palate so multiple tastings are a good idea!

Wedding Invitations:


The Knot: 6-8 months
Wedding Wire: 6 months
Brides.com: 5 months
My suggestion: 6 months

Notes:  Since you’re not going to be mailing your invitations a year before your wedding, you don’t need to buy them that early either.  However, I do recommend sending “save the date” cards to your guests as soon as you secure your reception site and wedding date.  Find a good stationer in your area that carries the styles and brands you like, and use them for both.  They will save you time, offer suggestions on confusing wording, send you a proof and take care of errors!

Wedding Transportation:


The Knot: 2-3 months
Wedding Wire: 2 months
Brides.com: 6 months
My suggestion: 5-6 months

Notes:  Seriously? TWO months lol?   If you are going to hire professional transportation (limos, shuttle buses, whatever), then you need to hire someone good and you need to do it more than 2 months before your wedding.  Any wedding planner will tell you that the wedding vendors they have the most trouble with are limo drivers.  The good ones will provide you with a clean, great looking ride and get you to the church on time.  The bad ones will show up late (or not show up), get lost, and make you late for the wedding you’ve paid so much to plan.  My advice is to do this about 6 months before your wedding, and pay a little extra to hire the best company you can find.  Ask your wedding planner for advice on who to hire, chances are she’s had a bad experience with more than one of the limo companies in your area.

***Additional note:  If you are getting married from late April through the beginning of June, you really need to jump on your limo situation.  Most brides don’t think about it, but its prom season — most limo companies will completely sell out on Fridays and Saturdays.


As you can see, the “experts” don’t even agree on the wedding planning timeline.  The best advice I can give is: a) hire a wedding planner, b) book your reception site and set your date immediately, c) book anything that requires a specific person as soon as possible, and d) do your homework when you hire your vendors!

There are many times that I fall in <3 with a couple.  I mean my brides are AWESOME in so many ways, but this time I fell in love with a family! When I first met the couple, she told me her name was Luv……….. thus my creative mind went right toward the theme “Luv is in the air”!  Everything was to be simple and a celebration of their love!

Luv and her daughter (also called the prettiest little angel I have ever met) shared so many special moments during the day but the photographer captured my favorite moment of the day!

Every little detail was a reminder of their love!

And it was evident that we were celebrating Love!

As they joined hands for the ceremony, there was not a dry eye!

Atmospheres did an amazing job setting the mood.  Look at the details Deb put into every piece of the decor!

I told you she was an angel <3

Anna Cakes knocked it out of the park with this one.  The couple wanted something understated with hints of elegance! Let me tell you, this cake tasted amazing!  Coconut with guava was a surprisingly great combination (ok, so I am usually a “plain Jane” when it comes to cake, but I had to try it and……………YUM!)

The party was off the hook and Dan with WhiteRose had every guest on the dancefloor! Lets just say that a great DJ keeps the party going, and nobody wanted the night to end.  Mr and Mrs DeJesus, we wish you a lifetime of happiness and love……… After all, you taught us what Luv in the air feels like!

So I dedicate my inspiration song to you and will always think of you two when I hear this song!

Thank you to our wonderful vendors for a night not soon forgotten:

Errol Estates Country Club

Atmospheres Floral

Anna Cakes

White Rose Entertainment

Sensational Ceremonies

and

Visions Media for capturing it all!!!

Orlando Wedding and Party Rentals

I got a kick out of this.  What do you think?  Funny or annoying???

Searching for a special token to let your friend know how much it means to you to have her in your wedding party? I think this is the most amazing way to do it. I can imagine how special this necklace becomes in time and I am <3 <3 <3-ing it!!!

This necklace is hand crocheted in wire and hangs on a black silk adjustable cord. Delicate and feminine, the disc is the size of a dime in diameter. Looks great layered with other necklaces. Made to order.

The art is customizable, change the hair, the flowers and the dress to reflect your own wedding design.


22 KT Gold $98.00

Rose Gold $98.00

Silver $50.00

Copper $45.00

Gold filled $45.00

additional fee for art customization.

Original designs made by hand-  Butterflies Kiss

© 2010 Donna Wilson


Unity candles have been around for a long long time (I think I still have mine in a box somewhere.) Then came sand ceremonies, where the bride and groom each pour sand (usually of a different color) into one shared container to show they’ve become one, and just like the mixed sand, never separated again. But here are a few more ways to show your love for one another during your wedding ceremony:

1. Blessing of Rings: You can pass around your wedding rings to those in attendance. They each take a moment to hold them and wish you both well.  A very nice tradition that gets your guests involved in your ceremony.  Suggestion:  Put the rings in a small tulle bag….. this lets your guests see the ring and minimized the risk of dropping them.

2. Blessing of the Hands-This ceremony is quickly becoming a popular favorite of many couples. It is a very beautiful and quite moving addition to any service. Couples hold hands and the officiant blesses the couple with “These hands you are holding on your wedding day are the hands of your best friend who promises to love you all the days of your life……..” Reminding the couple that the hand they are holding today will be the hand that walks through life on this amazing journey of life.

3. Handfasting: This is a Celtic ceremony where the bride and groom’s hands are joined in a figure eight, and then tied together. I love the idea of using a piece of fabric that’s special to your families–maybe pieces of your baby blankets, something knitted just for the occasion, or maybe even a ribbon from your grandmother’s bouquet.

4. Water Cleansing: This is a purifying ritual to symbolize the release of the past, so that you enter into marriage with an open heart. Water is poured over the open palms of both people getting married. Of course you will want to be sure to stretch out your hands so that the water doesn’t splatter on your wedding dress!

5. Friendship Circle: Best for smaller ceremonies, this spin on an old Quaker tradition has the couple in the middle of a circle that is formed by their friends and family, who can take turns saying nice things about the couple or wishing them well. You could even be bestowed with advice for a successful union. Just be sure to give bashful folks the opportunity to pass on speaking aloud.

6. Tree Planting: This is a great idea for people getting married in their backyard and presents two individuals coming together as one. The tree should be mostly planted beforehand, and each of you just gives it a symbolic small shovel of dirt. This is also great for couples who want to have an eco-conscious wedding. You could plant a small seedling in a small pail with the intention of replanting it at your house later.

The traditions of the past can bring a special touch to your union. If you did something a bit unusual at your wedding ceremony, we’d love to hear about it!

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